A Guide For Pre-Marital Counseling

There are a LOT of pre-marital counseling programs out there in the world and it is hard to figure out which one is the best. In this program guide, we will be going over key marriage issues that commonly show up in a therapist’s office so that you stand a better chance of having a great marriage and hopefully, avoid having to come to therapy for these issues. That’s right in this lesson you will be learning about what to look out for in a marriage. Please note that some of this course material is the same material as in the Life Wise Save My Marriage Program because parts of that program are relevant. Lesson titles have been kept the same so that you do not repurchase a duplicate.  If you really want to do your best to ensure you have a great marriage try our Save My Marriage Program the complete version or purchase those sections that you feel will be needed in your marriage that are NOT included in this pre-marriage program.

For example, you may want to purchase select assessments or lessons not included in this program if you believe they are relevant to your particular situation in your relationship. In this program, we have included those lessons believed to be relevant to creating a happy new marriage. Please note that while these plans refer to the couple as already being married the concepts and principles are and will still be needed for new marriage and that is what you should be focusing on. Please strongly consider using a Life Wise Coach for some in-person pre-marital counseling.

Benefits to Pre-Marital Counseling In Person

Pre-Marital Counseling helps dismantle fears about marriage. One or both of you might come from a divorced family, or from a dysfunctional background where fighting and manipulation were the norms. Premarital counseling can teach you how to make peace with your past and break the cycle.

Good pre-marriage counseling will help you confirm that the person you are thinking of committing your life to is of good character, and it can help you avoid unnecessary conflicts in your marital future. It’s easy to get swept up in the feelings of love and the excitement of getting married and lose track of realistic and critical topics like money, sex, and kids or worse have those topics negatively impact your marriage because you did not know how to deal with them.

Pre-Marital Counseling can help you learn (or improve on) your conflict resolution skills. If you’ve had some arguments then you both know how you tend to react during arguments. Someone is typically giving the cold shoulder ie., the silent treatment and pouting or yelling or name-calling. A counselor will teach you how to listen and communicate more effectively and specifically. We will help you figure out what to say (and not say) in order to reach a happy solution.

Pre-Marital Counseling can help soothe fears of unearthing additional problems. It can be unnerving to begin the process of premarital counseling because you and/or your groom might worry that examining your relationship under a microscope can lead to more stress and issues. In fact, although this can be hurtful in the short term, it can be very helpful in the long run.

Pre-Marital Counseling can help you be more humble. It’s neither easy nor fun to learn that you have less-than-stellar communication skills or find out that your groom isn’t happy with your sex life. Even something as simple as hearing that he’d like more decompression time when he gets home from work can make you feel scolded, so you need to be prepared for some tough truths. It’s important for you and your future spouse to remove your egos from the equation and allow yourselves to be open to constructive criticism, with the knowledge that in the process, you’ll become a better husband and wife.

The following topics are questions we recommend you discuss openly with your soon-to-be spouse to better prepare you for marriage. Questions are written in the first person so you can read them while asking your partner.